Relationships As a Teen

In high school it almost seems like a rite of passage to start dating. Everyone begins to pair off and some people may not be able to find anyone. Your best friends seem to only care about boys now and you just don’t understand. Or you may be noticing boys but they don’t seem to be noticing you. I’m here to tell you that you really don’t need a relationship in high school. It may seem all fun and rainbows but in reality it’s a lot of work.

You may see the couples around school and think it’s always happy and cute. It’s not. Ever heard the saying “you never know what happens behind closed doors.”  That fits really well in this situation. You don’t know what a person’s relationship is really like unless it is yours. The couple you see walking in the hallways, holding hands, might be having screaming fights on the phone every night. The girl being hugged by her boyfriend might be getting abused. Some couples may seem very happy and they probably are, but there could be a lot of problems.

Another huge point of not needing a relationship; you need to focus on yourself. High is a time to figure out who you are and explore yourself. You should be trying clubs, musicals, sports, AP classes and tons of other stuff. Have fun, meet new people, and figure out what you want in life before you worry about someone else. You don’t need to focus your time on anyone but yourself.

Just recently my friend and I broke up with our boyfriends. We both realized we needed time to ourselves. Right now we are living the single life and really liking it. We are able to do what we want and talk to whoever without worrying about another person in our life. We were both sad to see our relationships end but now we are able to have fun and explore who we are.

All I’m going to say is; you do not need to find love during high school. Chances are you probably won’t. We are all too young to fully understand what love is. So right now, have fun, flirt with people, and don’t take the need to date too seriously. You can worry about love and relationships when you’re older. Right now, it doesn’t matter.